It is that time of year where we are either crossing the finish line celebrating our newly reached goals, or stretching desperately to put ourselves over the top, at least we hope that is our current experience. Unfortunately there are those who met their goals but still are unhappy as they compare themselves to others doing more than they. Many, if not most, are trying to be quiet and not have attention on them as their goals long ago ran out of sight of their reach. Now what? What do you do if you are celebrating or hiding? Or just feeling down as you compare you and your business to others?
Most unhappiness comes from comparing ourselves to others, comparing looks, businesses, and lives. We tend to compare our weaknesses to the strengths of those who we admire. This isn't fair to us, or them. Far less likely are we to compare our strengths to the weaknesses of someone else.
We each have different personalities, skills, experiences and more. Each of us has strengths others do not, and weaknesses where others are strong. Learn from those you admire, find ways to follow their examples, but don't beat yourself up because you're aren't like them, or at least not yet. You will always be different, but that doesn't mean less, could be better as you continue to develop your skills.
Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, in your own priorities. Is a mom with young children whose focus is on them, who just wants to supplement the families income enough so she doesn't have to go to work full-time and accomplishes that any less successful than the ones walking across stage at awards events? Not at all, she met her goals, who knows that one on stage might have missed the one they were chasing.
The only comparing that anyone should do is how are you comparing to you, your past, your goals, your wants and desires.
You should focus and build on your strengths , put your efforts into the areas you excel, while trying to work on your weaknesses to improve them. If you need more education get it. If you need more skills work to develop them. However, focus on your strengths.
For those that another year where the goals and ends never met. First off, quit beating yourself up! Identify what stopped you. Was it setting a goal too high for your current skill set and available time commitment? Was it outside circumstances, there are some that no matter how positive you are, do make things more challenging? Were you just not motivated? At least identify it so you can adjust for 2014 and don't find yourself here again next year. Here is a link to an earlier blog on how to set goals that you will actually hit.
http://jimmorganindianarealestate.blogspot.com/2012/12/tis-season-for-goals.html
Also this one addresses why we too often fail when we are seeking our goals.
http://jimmorganindianarealestate.blogspot.com/2013/04/the-problem-is-not-problem-never-has.html
If you are crossing the finish line and are truly experiencing that wondrous mountain top feeling, it is now time to Peek across to your next Peak to set your sights on your next Summit to climb. Robert Schuller book, "Peek to Peak Principle" that speaks of how when we reach the Peak of one of our goals and dreams we must then Peek to the next Peak to climb. Remember that there are no mountains that you go from one Peak to the other Peak without first stepping back down into the valley. So set your vision from the Peak!
